I want to start promoting this now. My wife is going to be on the show/group on Feb 19th. (The date is subject to change but I see no reason why it should) I will be interviewing her. She is my wife of 11 years. She will have some great insights on how to successfully live with someone with AvPD issues.
If you know anyone that is trying to live to someone that has Avoidance issues, or if you as an AvPD, just want to know how the other side thinks, please make sure to join us on Feb 19th at 7:00pm MT.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
Avoidant Personality
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Tuesday, January 21, 2014
Tomorrow nights Avoidant group - We can learn from and understand each other
Tomorrow is the Avoidant Group. We will be talking about Normals, which is what I call people that do not have Avoidant Personality. Though in reality, there is no such thing as "Normal" . We are all unique individuals with unique personalities. So each one of us are unique and wonderful people. People with Avoidance are....just more unique than others.
I have been writing in this blog for a long time. Its only been recently that I decided to take the next step. The next step is to start a group where we can all learn from each other. One of the main goals for the group is that Normals and those with Avoidance issues can come together and learn.
Since I have been writing in this blog and running the group, I have talked to people all over the world. There are lots of people everywhere that are trying to deal with Avoidance. There are even more out there that are Normals that are trying to be in a relationship with someone that has Avoidance.
There is a lot of work to be done here. There is a lot of fear of the other side. Those with Avoidance issues do not understand Normals and Normals do not understand those with Avoidance issues. The result is that both sides mistrust the other and dont want to deal.
Well, one of my missions here is to try to mend these 2 sides. We have to learn to understand each other. For both our sakes. We all need each other. Believe it or not. Avoidants needs Normals and Normals need Avoidants. But we have to understand each other. Its not going to be easy, but I believe we can do it.
Join me tomorrow night at 7:00 MT and lets start learning.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/needsmet/2014/01/23/avoidant-personality-group-depression-social-anxiety-etc
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
I have been writing in this blog for a long time. Its only been recently that I decided to take the next step. The next step is to start a group where we can all learn from each other. One of the main goals for the group is that Normals and those with Avoidance issues can come together and learn.
Since I have been writing in this blog and running the group, I have talked to people all over the world. There are lots of people everywhere that are trying to deal with Avoidance. There are even more out there that are Normals that are trying to be in a relationship with someone that has Avoidance.
There is a lot of work to be done here. There is a lot of fear of the other side. Those with Avoidance issues do not understand Normals and Normals do not understand those with Avoidance issues. The result is that both sides mistrust the other and dont want to deal.
Well, one of my missions here is to try to mend these 2 sides. We have to learn to understand each other. For both our sakes. We all need each other. Believe it or not. Avoidants needs Normals and Normals need Avoidants. But we have to understand each other. Its not going to be easy, but I believe we can do it.
Join me tomorrow night at 7:00 MT and lets start learning.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/needsmet/2014/01/23/avoidant-personality-group-depression-social-anxiety-etc
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
Thursday, January 16, 2014
Definition of an Avoidant
I am working on a place for Avoidants. I home of sorts. A place where we are find some safety, some help and healing. This is also where the entry to the classes will be.
There is not much on the web site as yet. I have been working on a definition for What is an Avoidant.
If you have any thoughts, please let me know.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
There is not much on the web site as yet. I have been working on a definition for What is an Avoidant.
If you have any thoughts, please let me know.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
Avoidant class
The Avoidant group did not happen last night. My apologies, but I think the delay will be worth it. I talked to a very good friend of mine that teaches a class called Restoration. The class is for people that have been hurt in their past, which is pretty much all of us to one degree or another.
I know now what I need to do after talking to my friend. I need to develop a class like Restoration specifically for Avoidants. It will take some time to do, but I think this is the thing I was missing. Avoidant group has been pretty willy nilly and free form.
The class will be structured in steps so I can walk us all through the issues with being an Avoidant and how to overcome it. There are many many Avoidants all over the world that suffer from this. We can all learn together what it is, how to deal with it, and how to find healing.
I will also be working with my wife to come up with her side. There is a lot that she can offer to the class from the perspective of a normal trying to live with an Avoidant.
I have lots of work to do on this. If you have any ideas, suggestions, questions you want answered etc..., please drop me an email.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
I know now what I need to do after talking to my friend. I need to develop a class like Restoration specifically for Avoidants. It will take some time to do, but I think this is the thing I was missing. Avoidant group has been pretty willy nilly and free form.
The class will be structured in steps so I can walk us all through the issues with being an Avoidant and how to overcome it. There are many many Avoidants all over the world that suffer from this. We can all learn together what it is, how to deal with it, and how to find healing.
I will also be working with my wife to come up with her side. There is a lot that she can offer to the class from the perspective of a normal trying to live with an Avoidant.
I have lots of work to do on this. If you have any ideas, suggestions, questions you want answered etc..., please drop me an email.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
Monday, January 6, 2014
Avoidants unite
The last 2 Avoidant Groups did not happen due to the holidays. One Wednesday fell on Christmas and the other fell in New Years day. I have a few things on my mind this morning.
First, I am still working on a web site for Avoidants. It might be a few more weeks before its done. The person that was working on putting it up ditched me. It happens. I am not sure what all will be on the web site yet. I am open to ideas and suggestions. Or if there is someone out there that wants to take on the project and knows Wordpress, just let me know and we can talk about it.
Second, I am hoping to get to work this year on the book that I have been talking about for such a long time now. Its hard to find the time and sometimes motivation. That plus I am not sure who to go to for publishing. For those of you that do not know of this, I am working on a book for Avoidants, by an Avoidant and also by his spouse.
So the book will be from the perspective of an Avoidant (Me) and also from the perspective of someone living with an Avoidant (My wife). As far as I know, there is nothing out there like this. Most books that are out there for Avidants are long winded books written by professionals that have learned about Avidants from other books. They use long clinical words that no one but them knows what they mean.
I think most that write these books do so so they can make themselves sound smart and so they can have a book to put on the shelf in their office. Like the movie; "What About Bob".
I will try real hard to get this book written and published this year. Even if it is just an ebook.
Now that the holidays are done, we will resume the groups on Wednesdays. As usual, they are held at 7:-0 pm MT. Here is the link to the next one. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/needsmet/2014/01/09/avoidant-personality-group-depression-social-anxiety-etc
The success of the group will depend on interaction. If you want to tell your story, or you have a suggestions, or ideas, just let me know. Maybe you have something that you want to discuss. You can cal into the live group, you can email me, or come into our chat room.
Ya know, I recently heard a song on the radio. It talked about not listening to lies. The lie is that we are nothing, we are not worth anyone's time. We are alone and always will be. We are defective.
Well, I am here to tell you, and me, that we are none of these things. Its hard not to believe these things. But this is what we have to do. Don't believe the lie. believe the truth of what God says about you and me. We are worth it. We have value. We can have friends and even get married.
Is it hard. Sure it is. Its way harder for Avoidants than for normals. But that does not mean its impossible. I saw a movie once that was talking about women. The character said that the more resistance you got from a woman, the better the relationship could be once you got though.
I believe the same is true for you and me. The greater potential that you and I have, just means that Satan is going to work that much harder to prevent it from coming to pass. If we can just believe that we can overcome, we Avoidants can achieve great things in this world.
Lets all unite and find that purpose.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
First, I am still working on a web site for Avoidants. It might be a few more weeks before its done. The person that was working on putting it up ditched me. It happens. I am not sure what all will be on the web site yet. I am open to ideas and suggestions. Or if there is someone out there that wants to take on the project and knows Wordpress, just let me know and we can talk about it.
Second, I am hoping to get to work this year on the book that I have been talking about for such a long time now. Its hard to find the time and sometimes motivation. That plus I am not sure who to go to for publishing. For those of you that do not know of this, I am working on a book for Avoidants, by an Avoidant and also by his spouse.
So the book will be from the perspective of an Avoidant (Me) and also from the perspective of someone living with an Avoidant (My wife). As far as I know, there is nothing out there like this. Most books that are out there for Avidants are long winded books written by professionals that have learned about Avidants from other books. They use long clinical words that no one but them knows what they mean.
I think most that write these books do so so they can make themselves sound smart and so they can have a book to put on the shelf in their office. Like the movie; "What About Bob".
I will try real hard to get this book written and published this year. Even if it is just an ebook.
Now that the holidays are done, we will resume the groups on Wednesdays. As usual, they are held at 7:-0 pm MT. Here is the link to the next one. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/needsmet/2014/01/09/avoidant-personality-group-depression-social-anxiety-etc
The success of the group will depend on interaction. If you want to tell your story, or you have a suggestions, or ideas, just let me know. Maybe you have something that you want to discuss. You can cal into the live group, you can email me, or come into our chat room.
Ya know, I recently heard a song on the radio. It talked about not listening to lies. The lie is that we are nothing, we are not worth anyone's time. We are alone and always will be. We are defective.
Well, I am here to tell you, and me, that we are none of these things. Its hard not to believe these things. But this is what we have to do. Don't believe the lie. believe the truth of what God says about you and me. We are worth it. We have value. We can have friends and even get married.
Is it hard. Sure it is. Its way harder for Avoidants than for normals. But that does not mean its impossible. I saw a movie once that was talking about women. The character said that the more resistance you got from a woman, the better the relationship could be once you got though.
I believe the same is true for you and me. The greater potential that you and I have, just means that Satan is going to work that much harder to prevent it from coming to pass. If we can just believe that we can overcome, we Avoidants can achieve great things in this world.
Lets all unite and find that purpose.
This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)