An Avoidant what?

I realized today that some have no clue what being an Avoidant is. I have told some to seek out my blog that have different issues altogether.

Though they may be different, I think a struggle is a struggle is a struggle. We probably all share at least some similarities.

I have written about what an Avoidant is. But its been a while. So I decided to revisit this.

Being an Avoidant means that we avoid relationships because we dont know how to deal with them. Its like a severe form of Social Phobia. Its a hatred of being with people because we have no idea how to deal with people.

But I think at the same time, Avoidants love people. On some level at least. So its a constant battle between the 2 sides. Love and hate all wrapped up together.

This makes life almost intolerable.

Most, if not all, Avoidants have considered or attempted suicide at one time or another in their lives. Some have no doubt succeeded.

But like most people that are suicidal, its usually a cry for help.

Avoidants lack social graces that other people just know and take for granted.

My wife has to remind me to shake peoples hands, and say hello to them. I dont know how to start and end conversations. I have learned some over time, but its a process that may not be done within my lifetime.

I think the reason for this is because we shield ourselves so much from people, we just dont have the opportunity to learn this simple things that others do when they are young.

Avoidants tend to be loners and introverts. Or they become this very quickly due to not be able to function in social groups.

Avoidants will have a very difficult time in relationships. Many will probably wind up in abusive relationships due to the fact that we feel we dont deserve any better.

Well, I could go on and on, but I think that is enough for now.







This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. I have set up a survey on AvPD. Click here to take it. I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.