My inner Avoidant

Good Morning,

I try, as best I can, to keep my inner Avoidant at bay. I would like to see that it is all-together defeated. But I cant honestly cay that. In all my years as living as a Christian, I have learned just a few things. One of them is to be honest. As Christian, we get on this bandwagon called Positive Confession.

What I have learned is that all the positive confession in the world is not going to make this thing go away. I can walk around all day saying things like; "I am not an Avoidant. I am normal and I love people". Well, saying this all day is not going to make it so. Like Jean Luke in Star Trek. He would say; "Make it so #1."

Well, I am begging God to make it so. Or perhaps I am just telling myself to make it so. Not sure. To me, its a bit like one of those monks or people that chant in the airports, though you dont see these people much anymore. You know. the one that had bald heads and handed out flowers. What an odd group.

Anyway, the point is that if I go around saying this all day long, I think the only thing it is going to get me is tired. And maybe some odd looks from people that think I have fallen off the deep end!

We hear about positive confession a lot, or at least we did. Not sure its a popular as it once was. I think because most people discovered that it did not work. Like when you get a cold and we were told to just tell ourselves that we are not sick and dont have a cold.

It seemed more like a lie than the truth. The truth is that this body gets sick. We get colds, the flu, diseases and such. Yes, it is of course also true that Jesus died for our sins, and gave us power over sickness and death. But that does not mean that this body is not going to get sick or die.

The problem is us vs our body. We are not this body. We cannot get sick or die. Our spirit and true selves that it. So from that perspective, what Jesus said was true. But our bodies is a different story. It can and will get sick and eventually die. I have this Avoidant thing in me. It is real and a issue with my body.

Saying that it is not real is not going to make it unreal. What I do though is I do try to separate me from the Avoidant. I am not an Avoidant, but I do have this Avoidant in me. Its a simple, but important distinction.

I have been working on a book for a long long time now. I think its needed. There just are not any books out there written by Avoidants for Avoidants. We only have books from so called professionals that have learned about Avoidants from books.

What I am looking for are stories. I know it is asking a lot as Avoidants dont like to put themselves out there. But you will have to trust me on this. It will help you heal just telling your story. You dont have to put in here as a comment, though I recommend that.

One of the biggest lies is that you are alone. That there is no one out there like you. That you are the only one that is as messed up as you. This is a lie. The truth is that there are a lot just like you. We are have pretty similar issues. We need to all band together and share our stories, struggles and experiences. It will help you and your story will help others as well.

So lets share with each other and gets some light on this Avoidant thing. If you prefer, you can email me at Phillip@needsmet.us.

We can learn from each other and get some healing from this inner Avoidant.








This is my log of my issues with living to Avoidant Personality Disorder. My hope is that in writing this, it will help myself and perhaps others that are also struggling with this disorder and others like it. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1tyKSgW-IeaK851gvIjjthije0kOwg3tZxVqKXSC1xXg/viewform I am trying to get more information on this disorder so that we can find commonalities. Perhaps if we can learn more about this, we can figure out how to combat it and get better lives for us all.